Jay Wiseman (born 1949) is a prominent American "lifestyle" writer, speaker, and practitioner, best know for the popular book SM101: a realistic introduction, which is considered to be one of the best introductory books on the subject. He is based in San Francisco, California.
Wiseman's first involvement with the public "lifestyle" community began in the mid-1970s, when he began attending functions at the "BackDrop" and "Janus" groups in the Bay Area. He started a male-dominant organization called the Gemini Society in 1978.
In 1988, Wiseman began teaching workshops about techniques to write good personal ads. This led to his first book in 1989, Personal AD-ventures, published by Gentle Persuasion Press. Over the next two years, he sold several hundred copies, and interest in the book led to an increased schedule of public speaking, as Wiseman was invited to speak at various singles events around the San Francisco Bay Area. This led to his next book, The Bay Area Singles Guidebook, which he self-published, and then in 1991 The Bay Area Sexuality Resources Guidebook, which became a hit and sold thousands of copies.
Also in 1988, Wiseman had taken advantage of the newly available personal computers and word processing software, to start writing a book which he entitled SM 101, with basic explanations and safety tips about various "lifestyle" practices. He self-published it in a spiral-bound format in 1992, and it became one of the best-known titles in the genre. In 1996 it was re-published in a more commercial "bound" format, by Greenery Press, and it began showing in more mainstream bookstores. It is one of the most recommended titles to newcomers in the scene, along with Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Phillip Miller and Molly Devon.
In 1991, Wiseman started the Greenery Press publishing house with his partner Lady Green, author of The Sexually Dominant Woman. The publishing house grew to the point of publishing several titles a year, and they hired on two other employees.
In 1992, Wiseman published Tricks -- More than 125 Ways to Make Good Sex Better. This caused readers to send him even more tricks in email, and in 1993, Wiseman published Tricks 2 -- Another 125 Ways to Make Good Sex Better, followed by the 1995 Sex Toy Tricks: 125 Ways to Accessorize and the 1996 Supermarket Tricks -- More than 125 Ways to Improvise Good Sex.
In 1996, Wiseman started his own book distribution company. In 1998, he also began serving as an expert witness at various trials, specifically about issues related to breath control and negotiations.
In 1998, Wiseman published The Erotic Bondage Handbook, which tripled his number of speaking engagements.
LAW SCHOOL
Perhaps inspired by his jobs as an expert witness, Wiseman began taking paralegal classes. In 2002, at the age of 53, he was accepted at the New College of California School of Law, from which he graduated in 2005.
Wiseman passed the California Bar Examination in November 2006.